Comments on: Early or Late Marriage? http://smileosmile.com/relations/early-or-late-marriage/ Controversies start here Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:34:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: shawbrookehttp://smileosmile.com/relations/early-or-late-marriage/#comment-563 shawbrooke Thu, 04 Nov 2010 19:49:49 +0000 http://www.smileosmile.com/?p=2497#comment-563 "when marriage is postpones to the third decade, divorce rates fall drastically when compared to those who marry in their 20’s". The one study that made the quoted conclusion omitted marriages between 21 and 27 from the data and failed to mention that the rise in late marriages was followed 20 years later by a rise in divorces in people's 50's, just when the kids need help with post secondary. My spouse's family has late married for several generations and the results are not pretty. They are constantly managing spouses they do not love, raising kids with less energy than is needed, being torn by sandwich generation issues when the kids are in their teens, and not adjusting as they should to societal changes. They are not as wealthy as the average person of their education/brains despite being ahead of their peers when they at last married. In my own family, 4 generations have made incremental changes since 1903, compared to 3 in my spouses family, and the impact of that has to be seen to be believed. My own kids can't find spouses - but they dumped good ones 10 years ago. They're out of touch by missing societal changes. Prospective spouses come with big hang ups (er, experience). It looks like they're ahead financially, so they are taking more un-fun risks. Having children is suddenly daunting, they don't know if they have the energy. No matter what I say, my energy falls as I age, they'll get less help from me as time goes on. Quite a bit of their inheritance may be disappearing into charities long before they start monitoring my books, since all these issues were predictable but my kids sadly have their head in the sand. “when marriage is postpones to the third decade, divorce rates fall drastically when compared to those who marry in their 20’s”. The one study that made the quoted conclusion omitted marriages between 21 and 27 from the data and failed to mention that the rise in late marriages was followed 20 years later by a rise in divorces in people’s 50′s, just when the kids need help with post secondary.

My spouse’s family has late married for several generations and the results are not pretty. They are constantly managing spouses they do not love, raising kids with less energy than is needed, being torn by sandwich generation issues when the kids are in their teens, and not adjusting as they should to societal changes. They are not as wealthy as the average person of their education/brains despite being ahead of their peers when they at last married.

In my own family, 4 generations have made incremental changes since 1903, compared to 3 in my spouses family, and the impact of that has to be seen to be believed.

My own kids can’t find spouses – but they dumped good ones 10 years ago. They’re out of touch by missing societal changes. Prospective spouses come with big hang ups (er, experience). It looks like they’re ahead financially, so they are taking more un-fun risks. Having children is suddenly daunting, they don’t know if they have the energy. No matter what I say, my energy falls as I age, they’ll get less help from me as time goes on. Quite a bit of their inheritance may be disappearing into charities long before they start monitoring my books, since all these issues were predictable but my kids sadly have their head in the sand.

]]> By: mwangi Dhttp://smileosmile.com/relations/early-or-late-marriage/#comment-250 mwangi D Fri, 15 Jan 2010 14:25:11 +0000 http://www.smileosmile.com/?p=2497#comment-250 the article is very educative and addresses the exact issues that affects marriage. it is true from my own observation that those who marry very young separates very early or get bored very early in marriage. thanks . the article is very educative and addresses the exact issues that affects marriage. it is true from my own observation that those who marry very young separates very early or get bored very early in marriage. thanks .

]]> By: VandeNikhilam USA » Early or Late Marriage? | Smile O Smilehttp://smileosmile.com/relations/early-or-late-marriage/#comment-249 VandeNikhilam USA » Early or Late Marriage? | Smile O Smile Sat, 04 Jul 2009 12:40:38 +0000 http://www.smileosmile.com/?p=2497#comment-249 [...] between a blind wife and a deaf husband.” In such humor is truth. Here is the original post:  Early or Late Marriage? | Smile O Smile This entry is filed under Marriage. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS [...] [...] between a blind wife and a deaf husband.” In such humor is truth. Here is the original post:  Early or Late Marriage? | Smile O Smile This entry is filed under Marriage. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS [...]

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